Putting up the #$%$^ Tree. A Holiday Tradition of Love

Screen Shot 2012-12-10 at 5.43.08 AMEach year, we put up the Christmas tree. Each year, we have the tree fight. It has been this way since the dawn of mankind.  When I was little, we’d tag the tree and later in the season, we’d cut the tree down. Some years our tree would be there, others it would not–when you live in a low-crime area, tag switching is the crime of the century, but somehow you make a Plan B and succeed in finding another “perfect tree” which you drag through the forest instead.

For most of my childhood, the Great Annual Tree Fight occurred somewhere between the putting up the tree, which required several sharp tools and the correct combination of swears, and the unstringing of the lights. Lights are no small matter.  First you have to find them.  That requires at least one curse.  Then you have to untangle them, because no matter what you do to put them back, the mischievous little things always self-tangle in the off-season–light sex, I suppose.  They come out of the wrong box in such a tangled mass that Clark Griswold would be reduced to tears.

The lights we had growing up weren’t any of these new fancy LED lights that just seem to work. They were big colored bulbs–that took considerable time to prepare.  We had to test the string and find all the lamps that were defective. Some of the strings were series circuits, meaning that if one light was out, so was the whole string, making it nearly impossible to find the culprit without testing each and every bulb. That whole operation, from untangling to testing, took about seven or eight swears.

Getting the tree in the stand was even worse.  For most of my childhood, we lived in a regular house. That meant there was a standard-sized door and normal-height ceiling restricting the size of the tree. We never obeyed these constraints when choosing the tree–they all look miniature out in nature.  We’d bring that sucker right up to the door and realize…again…that the tree was far too big, that we accidentally took the one tagged for Rockefeller Center. That meant another eight or nine swears.  Once we shoved the tree through the door and discovered it was too tall we needed an additional swear or two to finish getting it up.

One year, we lived in a Victorian in Eastern Connecticut. Victorians have tons of room. We were able to use the double front doors to get the tree in, but it was so big that it kept falling over.  After going a few swears over the usual limit, my dad and his tree-standing companion–I actually don’t remember if it was his friend the priest or someone else–found a sledge hammer and railroad spike and banged it right into the floor.  Thanks to the sturdy construction of antique wrought iron spikes and 19th century hard wood floors that tree was officially reinforced.

Growing up, I thought this was how tree trimmings were supposed to go, so when I got big, it was no different.  My husband got upset at the lights, the size of the tree, and the whining in the room, and I got stressed. One year, they pulled out my circular saw and hacked far too much off the too-tall tree, gumming up it up to the break-point and creating a four-foot tree. The Charlie Brown tree.  And when it was up, everyone was only allowed to say, “Oh, it’s beautiful.”

One year, we made a monumental discovery–my tree allergy. Every year at Christmas, I’d get sick. Like clockwork.  I always attributed my illness to the fact that I work myself into the ground, and that I needed a bit of a rest–that the school year/job/life was getting to me.  My mom said, “Maybe you’re allergic to the tree.”  Sure enough, when I reflected upon my odd list of allergies pine was on them.  So, it stands to reason that if I can’t have pine candles, sprays, scents…maybe a big pine tree in the middle of my living room was to blame. I’ll never be a rocket scientist, that’s for sure.

So, we got a fake tree. This presented a whole new set of problems, including the “you didn’t fluff the branches” discussion. I never fluff the branches right. I’m not orderly and symmetrical.  I never even notice the lack of fluff. I just put the tree up and decorate.

This year, we got a pre-lit tree. Our old tree got moldy during the Great Flood and didn’t make move to the forest.  Ironic that we bought a new fake tree while living in the middle of a forest, but that’s the way it goes when you’re too stupid to know that a large pine tree stops you from breathing if you’re allergic to pine. And brings in spiders, by the way…

I put up the tree myself. I waited until I was alone so I could get New Tree up before anyone got to the tree fight stage. I know, it’s tradition, but I wanted to skip the argument and go right to the eggnog.  The boy was asleep on the couch, and Rusty was out.

The directions looked simple. Pictures of sections marked 1,2, and 3. The opposite of building the greenhouse last year. In three minutes the entire thing was up. No swears, no tree fight–even for someone too dumb to realize that having a pine allergy meant that she couldn’t have a tree. Instant Christmas cheer.

When we were done with all the decorations, only two ornaments smashed, we sat down and watched it twinkle.

“Hey,” said Rusty, “You forgot to fluff the branches.”

Yes, indeed. It’s perfect.

[image: clarkgriswoldcollection.com]


9 thoughts on “Putting up the #$%$^ Tree. A Holiday Tradition of Love

  1. I never knew, until I got married, that people could feel so strongly about HOW a tree and in what order a tree gets decorated. Then the kid came along and it became a free-for-all. Our tree is a garish Charlie Brown tree!

  2. One year at your parents house I think the tree fell over twice before your dad finally tied it to the wall. And your sister has definitely gotten grumpy at me for not doing the tinsel right (apparently you don’t just throw it at the tree). And long after the rest of the world had moved to those fancy new lights that stay lit when one goes out, your house was still using the big fat ones, because tradition.

    Not that putting up the tree wasn’t difficult at our house – I think the general consensus among people of the world is that it’s always a hassle – it just seemed to be a slightly bigger deal at your house.

    We just put ours up yesterday. And by “up” I mean it’s in the house, ready for someone to do something with it, which might happen sometime before Christmas. I look forward to the day I can pull a pre-lit tree out of a box and be done with the whole thing in minutes.

    • I felt bad, to be honest, because no doubt it was made in China by someone not fairly paid for the labor, but the peace of having a tree up in seconds…priceless. I was noticing the lack of tinsel, but it’s not very safe with the dog and environmentally, it’s questionable. I would like to save my environmental karma for the fact that I still can’t move over to furoshiki and I still use wrapping paper.

  3. ah, yes, memories of the big lights from growing up — and the unhappy parents trying to figure out which bulb went out after they tested them, all lights were a go, hung them, and then nada. Lovely. Of course, those suckers lasted for decades, unlike today’s “throw away” lights meant to be replaced every few seasons! ~ Kat

  4. Two things: 1) Pine?? Not likely. Probably a Fir or Spruce. 2) You left out the MOST crucial information: colored or white lights?

    • White at my house, colored growing up. But they use white now. Must confess that I can’t remember the type of tree. Probably not a spruce… Sticky and messy though:) The fake tree–not sure what it replicates because it has two types of needles. The fakeish ones and then the bushy realistic ones.

      • We have a split home: some of us prefer white lights on the tree, while the others prefer colored. We are in FL, Christmas trees do not grow here nor do they last very long when you buy them “fresh” cut (days ago from 700+miles away, after it sat on a hot truck for a two day journey and under the roadside tent until you bought it while wearing your shorts and flip flops because it’s 80 degrees out). So we do artificial, too. If only they can recreate that scent.

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